As the year progressed and my dreams turned to sh*t with my move to Italy dead in the water, life stood still. I'm sure it did for you.
I wasn't too caught up in this. I was just happy to be home safe and near my family.
But as the months wore on and I started to feel the mornings getting crisper, and I replaced my summer duvet with my heavier one I realised the year was coming to an end.
It made me pause and reflect...
I had to admit that life had become a tad stagnant. Most days seemed the same - lacklustre with nothing much to look forward to.
So I put my thinking headscarf on, and I thought:
"Ok, there's still a few months to go before 2021, what would I like to achieve by the time the new year comes?"
"What's going to uplift and inspire me and carry me on through with a smile on my face?"
That's the thing about time; it passes whether we do anything or not. 2021 will arrive, there's no question of that.
It's up to you whether you spend the next three months resting (extremely valuable also!) or you're ready for something more and have some outcomes that you want to be yours.
I spent some time focusing on me again - considering what I want more of in my life right now.
I'm old school, and I always do my planning on paper rather than the computer, so I got my A4 pad and pen out and started with a spider diagram.
When we put pen to paper, it opens our mind creatively to new thoughts and ideas in a way that typing can't - I know this from experience, and now neuroscience supports this!
I made an exciting visual plan of all the little things I want in my life, plus some new ideas that have only surfaced over the last few months.
Then I did the next vital thing - took action. Plans aren't worth a thing unless we have the confidence to start working on them and then the motivation to keep going.
Where do I get my confidence from?
Well, I've been at this game a long time now, and I seem to be able to pluck it from fresh air. It's not that I don't have those niggling self-doubts and disabling limiting beliefs - you know the ones:
- What will people think of me?
- What if I fail?
- I don't know where to start.
- It's too hard.
- I'm too busy or too tired.
Of course, I do. It's just that I no longer allow these pesky thoughts to stop me from reaching for the things I want.
I love how much bigger my life has become since I embarked on this journey of self-discovery almost a decade ago now, and I won't allow anything to make it smaller.
My mantra is: "Fu*k it, you're doing it, Hannah!" It works incredibly well for me.
Maybe you could try it yourself next time you're feeling a bit of fear about something? Say it to yourself.
See what happens? Let me know if it works for you!
So where do I get my motivation?
1/ Having a clear goal is motivating in itself- it gives us an immediate pick me up and energy boost. 'Yes, I want to do this!'
(Sidenote - if ever a goal doesn't make you feel like this it's not the right goal for you)
2/ The final result *is* the motivation. This is why a robust plan is essential. If we break our goal down to manageable steps, we have a map with clear directions, and we know we'll get the results.
Goal + Action Steps = Results
Simple in theory...
Planning is one of my unique superpowers. I have a knack of breaking down even the biggest life-changing goals and reducing them to easily manageable tasks.
It's how I quit my job, got a place on and completed a Masters, got a new job as a wellness journalist and then moved to Vietnam when my daughter left home.
None of those things happened by accident - it was all part of an exceptionally well researched and detailed plan that I actioned over a few years. And I LOVED doing it.
Give me a juicy goal, and I'll help you develop a juicy plan - seriously it's what I love doing the most.
So after my new planning endeavours, I'm now revitalised, energised and ready to dance again.
Working towards something always fills me with a sense of purpose and contentment, and makes my days feel lighter, brighter and happier.
Is there something that's been on your mind that you'd like to have a go at/experience/achieve?
Maybe you just know you want something to change?
I wasn't sure what I wanted. I just knew there were some space and time available to me, so I started mind mapping to see where it took me.
Why not get the pad and pen out and see where it takes you?
When we have something exciting that we're working towards life feels all the more richer and meaningful.
If you'd like to inject some magic back into your life, something to help you focus and keep you smiling, and you need a bit of help doing it, you can book a one-off coaching session with me.
My job is to help you get specific and get focused, while building your confidence, offering new insights and cheering you along the way 🥳
You'll come away with a clear plan of action to bring some joy back into your life and *how* to action it.
Within a week you'll be hop skipping and jumping down the street and moving towards those goals that *will* be yours by the end 2020.
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Hannah Anstee is a former British Wellness Journalist turned Women’s Midlife & Wellbeing Coach.
You may know her from her work as Beauty Editor at YOGA Magazine or her contributions to The Independent or Psychologies Magazine.
Hannah uses a kind and candid approach to help women rewrite their stories.